A4A VS BGC

This is my 3rd blog and for all those of you that have been reading and keeping up with me thank you so much and remember spread the word. Now today I want to talk about something that me and my best friends talk about all the time because one we are on these sites all the time with what some people may call "meat shopping" and it’s the gay chat sites ( and I use the term chat VERY loosely) http://www.adam4adam.com and http://bgclive.com/ these two sites are the main form of contact between gay men looking to talk,"chill", networking , and just random hook ups. Because believe it or not it’s really hard even in this day in age to go somewhere beside local gay hot spots (clubs and hang outs) and find gay guys because in the "real world" even someone that maybe totally flamboyant try and hide their sexuality in pubic and or work places so it seems that cyberspace is our best way for finding someone gay so in comes A4A and BGC. Let’s Start With Adam4Adam.

They have a very good user interface which allows you to make a free profile very quick and easy you get a profile title, you may share your age, weight, penis size and HIV status etc. Now one main problem with A4A the page itself is not setup for someone who is in the closet/DL because the page is filled with ads for gay sex, gay sex toys, Hot Live Guy Waiting for you and just all out naked guys doing all kind of stuff in the background. Now the personal search is set up very well me as a bottom I can search for people in my part of town, if I want one on one, friendship, cam4cam, and 3 sums. I can also search for tops, versatile guys, just oral whatever tickles my fancy... I can even search by race now here where highlight of A4A is comes in for some reason the guys on here are well most are really easy to talk to. You can leave a message and 90% you get something back be they into you or not which is a good thing. Now I’m not going to say guys on there are not without problems, because some guys treat this site like its ONLY A SEX hook up site and so you MUST get on to have sex or you are wasting their time. They also seem to treat people like items on a menu and not REAL people, an last but not least as in for whatever reason guys be they top bottom what have you they chose to post totally naked pictures of themselves but at the start of their profiles they point out " they just looking for friends" or a famous line " I’m not looking to hookup" which to this day I just totally don't understand that's like sending in your resume' to a job but with no intentions of taken the job!     

Now to BGC or Black Gay Chat as it used to be called there setup its for a account and search  pretty much the same but one big thing is the background and sides are not swimming with gay ads they may have a ad for a gay event now and again but it seems to be more setup for closet and non-closet guys which is a good thing. They also let you customize your personal page with polls, music, backgrounds a lot like MySpace. But the biggest problem with BGC is not the site itself it’s the boogieness it's like people get on there to express how much everybody else not worth their time and everyone else is below them like really dude get a life. Instead of telling people what you're not there for, tell them what you are there for so that way at least people have a idea of what you like, also a big problem on both sites have is guys that mislead and contradict themselves by using title versatile but if there profile say "no one fucking me" you’re not versatile then I’m going to bring this to close now, I just want to point out that yes YOU maybe on their only looking for sex or networking please treat people with respect there are REAL people behind those profile and pictures treat them how you would want them to treat you!