Homophobic Homos!!

i always like to start out by thinking my followers and all of you who take the time out of you busy lives to just read my Lil piece of the Internet. something has come across me that i would never see and that's homophobia but not from straight people but i mean right here in the gay community itself. an no its not closeted homos either its people that are out to there family's but for some people when it comes to hanging out in pubic or if they are in a relationship its not wanting to meet there lovers other gay friends. for the life of me i cant understand people that are like that, you do some much to come out to the world express who you are but shelter yourself away from your own kind. the only reason i can find for this is a form of self judgement within themselves and also peer pressure so to speak because a lot of gay people still stick to hetero ways or stereotypes for gays. as in you see two guys together who one is manly and one fem  in the straight world the fem is "the girl" and in the homo world he must be the bottom which can be wrong on SO many reasons 

But a lot of versatile or even bottoms feel like they don't want a fem guy to top them which makes no sense to me what so ever. i know it seems I'm getting a little off topic but no really all this runs hand and hand because some guys feel its shameful to have a fem guy top them an hints the not wanting to hang out with his friends and keep them to his self because he will feel like his friends will judge him and feel less then a man. did i miss the memo but what makes you a "man" is you having a penis it stops there period no matter how much anal sex you have as a bottom, dicks you suck and make up and or drag outfits you put on you still have a penis THAT is what makes you a man.

A4A VS BGC

This is my 3rd blog and for all those of you that have been reading and keeping up with me thank you so much and remember spread the word. Now today I want to talk about something that me and my best friends talk about all the time because one we are on these sites all the time with what some people may call "meat shopping" and it’s the gay chat sites ( and I use the term chat VERY loosely) http://www.adam4adam.com and http://bgclive.com/ these two sites are the main form of contact between gay men looking to talk,"chill", networking , and just random hook ups. Because believe it or not it’s really hard even in this day in age to go somewhere beside local gay hot spots (clubs and hang outs) and find gay guys because in the "real world" even someone that maybe totally flamboyant try and hide their sexuality in pubic and or work places so it seems that cyberspace is our best way for finding someone gay so in comes A4A and BGC. Let’s Start With Adam4Adam.

They have a very good user interface which allows you to make a free profile very quick and easy you get a profile title, you may share your age, weight, penis size and HIV status etc. Now one main problem with A4A the page itself is not setup for someone who is in the closet/DL because the page is filled with ads for gay sex, gay sex toys, Hot Live Guy Waiting for you and just all out naked guys doing all kind of stuff in the background. Now the personal search is set up very well me as a bottom I can search for people in my part of town, if I want one on one, friendship, cam4cam, and 3 sums. I can also search for tops, versatile guys, just oral whatever tickles my fancy... I can even search by race now here where highlight of A4A is comes in for some reason the guys on here are well most are really easy to talk to. You can leave a message and 90% you get something back be they into you or not which is a good thing. Now I’m not going to say guys on there are not without problems, because some guys treat this site like its ONLY A SEX hook up site and so you MUST get on to have sex or you are wasting their time. They also seem to treat people like items on a menu and not REAL people, an last but not least as in for whatever reason guys be they top bottom what have you they chose to post totally naked pictures of themselves but at the start of their profiles they point out " they just looking for friends" or a famous line " I’m not looking to hookup" which to this day I just totally don't understand that's like sending in your resume' to a job but with no intentions of taken the job!     

Now to BGC or Black Gay Chat as it used to be called there setup its for a account and search  pretty much the same but one big thing is the background and sides are not swimming with gay ads they may have a ad for a gay event now and again but it seems to be more setup for closet and non-closet guys which is a good thing. They also let you customize your personal page with polls, music, backgrounds a lot like MySpace. But the biggest problem with BGC is not the site itself it’s the boogieness it's like people get on there to express how much everybody else not worth their time and everyone else is below them like really dude get a life. Instead of telling people what you're not there for, tell them what you are there for so that way at least people have a idea of what you like, also a big problem on both sites have is guys that mislead and contradict themselves by using title versatile but if there profile say "no one fucking me" you’re not versatile then I’m going to bring this to close now, I just want to point out that yes YOU maybe on their only looking for sex or networking please treat people with respect there are REAL people behind those profile and pictures treat them how you would want them to treat you!

Drunk Driving Its A Big Deal!

Well I have been thinking about this entry for a couple days now and I finally got to write about it. I just had to deal with is someone who wants to drink and drive! Why the hell is this still a problem this day and age, and I don't mean having a glass of wine or a beer at the bar after work I mean getting totally smashed somewhere and you make a conscious decision to drive home. An I just had to deal with someone on a personal level that chose to do this mind you he already had a DUI and was on probation for this same crime and yes it is a crime some people seem to forget this fact. The thing that upsets me the most is where the person say I’m ok to drive yes your mind maybe telling you that but you are not the only person on the road and someone may step out in the road or just crossing the street and maybe totally in the right but because you have been driving you judgment is impaired and you don't react the same way you do when you are sober. 

   You may kill yourself or someone else, I am one person that when I drink I get totally smashed can’t remember shit do stuff I don't remember. It’s all fun and games but I am lucky to have a best friend who doesn't drink at all so when I know I want to drink he is right at my side so that way I know I can go nuts and I will have someone drive me back safe and I know everyone doesn't have one of these magical friends who doesn't drink but I feel if you are going out with friends everyone should take turns being the non-drinker of the night or if ya'll can’t do that then everyone bring money for a cab and spit the fare or something 100s of 1,000s of people are killed every year from drunk drivers.So I say you want to go out and get totally shit faced go right ahead but bring a friend to get you home or if you dont have a friend bring extra money for a cab, and if you dont have that go to your local liquor store get all you want take it home and let loose ! 

How I Became A Bottom !

i been asked this question a lot and i guess i will take my first entry of my blog to address this. but let me take you back a while in my life i used to have sex with females and when i stared to come more to grips with the fact that i liked guys too i came out into the gay world with a lot of gay stereotypes that because i was "manly" at the time i was a what i know know is called the "Top" the one who gives and for a short VERY short time i was a top i thought i would never be the bottom as in , "it would hurt" me would mess up my ass in some way! but i meet someone who was a expert on the subject who told me if you truly want it will not hurt you and of course at first i didn't believe a word of it . but one day out the blue i was laying down watching a movie and he just came alone and slowly pulled down my pants and to make a long story shirt i felt one of the most wonderful feelings in the world. ANAL SEX i just laid there and just took it all in ( no pun intended ) and from that day forward all the stereotypes and rumors was gone out of my head. 

An as the years went on i became more and more Erwie why i see and the person trying to get out for some many years not saying Erwyn was not me he was but it was someone down deep inside that needed to come out. overtime my light feminine ways started to come out  i needed to keep my nails done i got a lil switch in my walk and that all become a part of me not saying feminine guys only can be bottoms or tops but i feel everyone should just be and do what feels good to them and being a bottom feels good to me i can be myself and i love it! so people even in the gay community feel that if you all manly you have to be a Top or if you a girly you have to be a bottom and that's what keeps people from evolving in the world because they try to keep everyone in these "boxes" and "roles" and if its not the case you get a funny looks or looked down on? i will never know but thats for another time but this is why how i and why i became a bottom and not because i have to be because i WANT TO BE!